How do I care for a widow on her anniversary?

You can count of the fact that every widow, regardless the duration of their marriage, remembers her anniversary.  It is without a doubt, the hardest day of the year for her, which means the church should be keenly aware of this day and seize the opportunity to care for them on it.  We recently had an elderly lady in our church lose her husband of over sixty years.  A young man in the church recalled her telling the story of what her husband always did for her on their anniversary.  Each year, the husband presented her a yellow rose accompanied by a card with hand-written encouraging words inside. 

On the afternoon of her anniversary, the young man arrived at this woman’s door with a yellow rose and a hand written card to give to this woman.  Did this act replace the absent effort of her late husband?  Certainly not.  However, this gesture was beyond meaningful for this woman, and it forever changed the relationship she had with this young man.

She still talks about how much that meant to her.  The young man now has a door into her life to care for her physically and spiritually in ways no one else in the church can.  Ask the widows about their anniversaries.  They will eagerly tell you.  Then, do your best to do something meaningful on that day.  One thing you can count on, any effort on that particular day will mean more than you will ever know.

Posted in Caring for Widows
4 comments on “How do I care for a widow on her anniversary?
  1. Gretchen says:

    Brian — sweet and insightful. Thanks for posting that reminder.

  2. Paul C says:

    Thank you for sharing this. Very good advice and quite practical.

  3. rashmi says:

    this is simply superb. the very thought of this is very mesmerizing and i feel that we an console widows in the same manner. thank you for posting such a nice article!!!

  4. Great thoughts here, Brian. I appreciate it.

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