On a recent post, we considered that stay at home moms are a great asset to a pastor, particularly in the area of caring for elderly widows. As a promised follow-up, here are 5 practical ways we train young moms in our church to take their children and visit elderly widows once a list has been created of those widows by the pastors:
Pray and contact. A great place to start is to take that list of widows that the pastors have put together and set a goal to pray and write a hand-written card to each widow on that list in one month. This allows a young mom who may be a bit apprehensive to go visit to make the first contact and allow God to stir affections for these widows through praying for them.
Organize a scheduled visit. Take the list and begin to systematically work your way down the list, setting a goal to maybe visit 1 or 2 widows a week. Once you complete the list it will be time to start the list over again.
Bake or make something to take as a gift. Widows love to receive any gift that you might bring with you. Whether you bake cookies, make something, or have your children color a picture, never underestimate the value of bringing something for this woman that she can look at, eat, or admire days after you have left.
Make a list of prayer requests. At some point in the visit, pull out a pad and pen and ask, “What are some things you would like the pastors and the whole church body to be praying on your behalf?” This is helpful to the pastors and a wonderful way to communicate a desire to care for her needs.
Write a brief report of the visit for the pastors. After you leave, write a brief email to one of the pastors by the end of the week of how the visit went and the prayer requests you gathered from her. This allows the pastors to pray more specifically for this widow and more accurately inform the congregation of their needs.
FAQ. Lastly, let me address 2 of the most common questions asked. “How long to stay and what to talk about.” Anywhere from 15 – 45 minutes is a good template (barring comfort level, kids meltdown, etc.). Topics like how she is feeling, family members caring for her, a typical day, history about her life, testimony of conversion, marriage and child rearing advice, and ways to pray for her are all great ways to carry a conversation.
Pastors, be training young moms in your congregation. Young moms, realize you are capable of having a very meaningful ministry in this area if you step out in faith believing God will give you the words and compassion to care for these ladies.