Answer: Have women’s events for the church where the men are responsible for watching the children.
One way our church cultivates this is by having a women’s small group at our house where the families come together, the ladies meet upstairs, while the men take the children downstairs to “embrace the chaos” as we refer to it. As my wife leads the book study with these women, we find several good, fruitful, maturing works are being done to both disciple our women and train our husbands to serve our wives:
– It provides a break and unhindered fellowship for ladies, especially moms, to focus on their own spiritual health.
– It teaches a practical way for a husband to serve his wife.
– It gives the pastor a chance to model service by caring for the children, something we cannot do on Sundays because we are preaching.
– It provides good fellowship for the men.
Obviously, there are a couple of factors that must be in place to accomplish this. You must have men (husbands) who are willing and have gone through the process your church has to approve children’s workers. You must also have a space that allows the ladies to have their meeting space, while a separate space is provided that is conducive for children of all ages to play and be confined. My recommendation is if a home is not feasible, then use the church.
Regardless how you accomplish this, pastors, find ways to teach the husbands of your church how they can practically serve their wives. I’m sure you have found what I have and that is when we teach husbands to lead their families by serving them, other fruitful areas of men’s leadership and humility soon follow.