How can you disciple women and train husbands to serve their wives at the same time?

Answer:  Have women’s events for the church where the men are responsible for watching the children.

One way our church cultivates this is by having a women’s small group at our house where the families come together, the ladies meet upstairs, while the men take the children downstairs to “embrace the chaos”  as we refer to it.  As my wife leads the book study with these women, we find several good, fruitful, maturing works are being done to both disciple our women and train our husbands to serve our wives:

– It provides a break and unhindered fellowship for  ladies, especially moms, to focus on their own spiritual health.

– It teaches a practical way for a husband to serve his wife.

– It gives the pastor a chance to model service by caring for the children, something we cannot do on Sundays because we are preaching.

– It provides good fellowship for the men.

Obviously, there are a couple of factors that must be in place to accomplish this.  You must have men (husbands) who are willing and have gone through the process your church has to approve children’s workers.  You must also have a space that allows the ladies to have their meeting space, while a separate space is provided that is conducive for children of all ages to play and be confined.  My recommendation is if a home is not feasible, then use the church.

Regardless how you accomplish this, pastors, find ways to teach the husbands of your church how they can practically serve their wives.  I’m sure you have found what I have and that is when we teach husbands to lead their families by serving them, other fruitful areas of men’s leadership and humility soon follow.

Posted in Discipleship, Home and Family
7 comments on “How can you disciple women and train husbands to serve their wives at the same time?
  1. great advice. Probably challenging to implement.

  2. Paul C says:

    Brian – what’s a good number to limit this group to, seeing as it’s in your home and you still want the setting to be comfortable and leisurely for the women? For example, does your wife limit it to 10 women (which might equate with 20-30 kids plus husbands)?

    Is there something you might change as a result of your experience with groups like this?

    A wonderful and practical idea.

    • Brian Croft says:

      We haven’t had to limit it at this point. We do have a full house of 10-15 ladies who come. Not all families come, but most. If it got any bigger than this, we would probably split the group and start a second one.

      One important thing we have learned is that my wife has to be mindful to end on time as many of these kids are past bedtime once they leave. Thanks for your question.

  3. We did this for a while in our previous church. Ladies had a Bible Study at a home close by the church building and the men (pastor included) had a “kid’s club” at the church building. We sang with the kids, had a Bible story, did a very simple craft, and had snacks.

    The kids loved it, the moms had a great Bible study, us dads learned that we could enjoy children’s ministry.

  4. paulyD says:

    I could not agree with this more. We find, in our church, that some of the most godly men who can often be found leading and encouraging the body are the Dad’s who excel at and take great joy in caring for the kids in support of their wife’s discipleship and encouragement.

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