Hello there blogging world. My name is Cara, I am Brian’s wife, and today I am hijacking his blog. Many of you have been encouraged and challenged by my husband’s blog and I am thankful for that. However today I thought I would give you the wife’s perspective!
Men, ministry is hard. I know that, you know that. It is no secret. It is a life that demands sacrifice, wisdom, time, and energy. What you may not know is that it is also hard for your wife and your families. Yes, you carry a huge burden, but we have to watch you carry it- which is our own burden. Yes, you feel discouraged when you are criticized, but we have to endure the pain of watching you be hurt, figure out how to help encourage you in the process, and still try to love the person who hurt you and not tear their eyeballs out! (sorry, I go a bit into momma bear mode when my husband is under attack)
You have to try to balance the burdens you feel to care for your flock with the burden to care for you family. We have to try to use wisdom to know how much to let you go and care for our church and how much to encourage you to draw boundaries and protect our family time. We have the unique challenge of trying to be gracious with your crazy schedules and help our children to be gracious as well. I have come to realize that probably my biggest challenge of all has just been to let my husband know when I am feeling overwhelmed with our life.
You see the last thing I want to do is to add one more burden on my husband, especially when I see him already carrying so much. Yet there are times when life is just hard for us too, and we are in this together after all. I want to know when he is struggling so I can help him and I know he wants to know the same about me. But it is hard to speak up sometimes.
So wives, here is your chance. I want to know (and I am sure your husbands do too), what is the biggest challenge in ministry life that you face? What has been the most surprising struggle? What has been your biggest joy? Let me know ladies…..who knows, it may end up in a book someday (hint…hint)!