A man wrote me recently struggling through a call to a particular church. It is a church that is financially stable for now, but needs revitalization that only has a few faithful elderly folks. This is a very common scenario. He was concerned that the church had no kids or younger women that would provide some friendship and fellowship for his wife and children. He was asking if this is a good enough reason not to go to a church. An excellent, valid question and one I know many of you are asking also. Here was part of my reply:
Good to hear from you. Great question that reveals some valid concerns. I came into a very similar church 11 years ago minus the financial stability. Average age was 80. No kids or young women. Now a fourth of the church are little kids with an average age of 35. It would be disingenuousness for me to tell you that these things are deal breakers and that God doesn’t want you to go to that church because of them. Often times, God uses a younger pastor and family to help bring that new life of the younger generation into the church. Having said that, it is hard and will be hard for your family. You may not see the same results I did and that is ok. You need to realize that this will be an investment of many years. Financial stability is huge in my mind as that buys you more years to hang in there. Other than that, you and your wife need to be up for the hard years in the beginning. In the mean time, it is a good stretch for each of you to try and find those friendships with those not in your peer group in the church. It will also be essential to look for some support for your family outside the church with other pastors and their families in your area. Blessings on you. Walk through the process with this particular church and trust God opening and closing doors as you do.