Here is some excellent, insightful advice from my wife to pastor’s wives on this matter:
Wives we play a very important role in this process. First, we need to encourage our husbands in doing this. One way this can be accomplished is by giving up some of our time with our husbands so they can spend that time- even one-on-one with our children.
Our children are only home for a short time so it is important we make this a priority.
Second, we need to remember that we are the ones that spend the majority of the time with our children. As a homeschooling mom, I spend my days with our kids. I am seeing first hand both areas of their struggle and growth. It is imperative that I share these things with my husband so that he knows how best to train and instruct them. I can’t expect him to just magically know what has happened through our day.
We are in this together so we need to work together.
Finally, we need to encourage our children to desire this time with their dads, but also to be gracious when unexpected things call them away. And we do this very much by example! We need to be just as excited to see our husbands when they come home as our children are, and we need to be gracious and understanding when the church needs our husbands more than we do at the moment.
Well said. Pastors, before our wives can be mindful to serve us in our efforts, we need to make sure we are being diligent to shepherd and disciple our children individually and weekly. For info on how to accomplish this, see this previous post.