Caring for Women

In our cultural milieu where accusations of sexual harassment headline each day’s news, pastors must exercise wisdom and discernment in relating to female church members. How may pastors shepherd female members well in such a context? Do women in our congregation feel neglected in relation to pastoral care? What does Scripture have to say about how pastors should relate to women in their congregation? What role does the pastor’s wife play in determining how a pastor relates to his female congregants? How might a pastor relate to women in his church in a manner that is both properly guarded and biblically relational?

Listen as Brian Croft and Jim Savastio address these issues and more in this podcast.


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4 comments on “Caring for Women
  1. A Sister says:

    Good podcast– very helpful to listen to (even as a woman)! I did have one question though. You commented that the default position is to believe the woman who comes forward with an allegation. What is your reasoning behind this? I understand that it’s very hard and painful for the truly abused to speak, since they are often disbelieved, and the trauma is immense. But I was also thinking of the verses about not showing partiality to the poor or the weak, but to hear the great as well. The story concerning Joseph and Potiphar’s wife also comes to mind. I understand one woman’s accusation (and a garment) don’t exactly add up to the number of accusers in most cases (though I guess you could say it’s two). But Potiphar’s default was to believe his wife, and he was greatly mistaken. Should the default position rather be to listen with an open mind but to hold off on passing judgment until the facts are in? I imagine this is very hard to do, and I realize false accusations are rare. But I also know that Satan has a target on the heads of pastors, and with my fellow women feeling especially empowered right now, I would not be surprised to see an uptick in false accusations (I hope I’m wrong!!!) Thanks!

    • Brian says:

      Thanks for listening and writing. Great question. Yes, we want to know the truth for sure. I do want to be careful on how women would try to take advantage of the metoo movement. However, the past common abuse is for powerful men in the church to cover up these injustices to women, which has been going on for a long time. I think we need to lean a bit towards hearing the women more to compensate for the long committed abuses in church life for a long time. May God give us all wisdom. You make a good point!

      • A Sister says:


        Thanks for the reply! I’m glad that you want to be careful and, yes, may God give us all wisdom! I do want to say I’m not exactly sure “leaning a bit towards hearing the women” compensates for what was done in the past. For example, if a parent was overbearing and legalistic with their children, I assume our answer wouldn’t be to “go easier” on them to “compensate” but rather look to the Gospel (going above the actions and to the root). I wonder if the problems of the church regarding abuse not only included disregarding the women but not really listening to the men either. I haven’t studied the issue, but it’s a thought. Thanks again!

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