Ep. 321: When it’s Hard To Love Certain People
Brian Croft and Jim Savastio discuss what pastors should do when it’s hard to love certain people in their churches. Starting from the biblical ideal of loving all the flock (1 Thessalonians 2), they distinguish wounded sheep from wolves and explore a spectrum from minor criticism to deep personal wounds. They also address bitterness, identity in Christ, and how physical and emotional stress show up in the body.
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(02:30) Setting up the topic and biblical foundation
(04:45) Biblical Ideal of Loving Everyone
(05:40) Sheep vs. Wolves – Setting Parameters
(08:45) Levels of Difficulty – From Mild Criticism to Dislike
(09:35) “Mud in the Face” – Handling Criticism
(11:45) Examples of Painful Feedback & Common Temptations
(14:50) Trust, Tenure, and Misreading People
(19:20) Deep Wounds & The Call to Keep Loving
(21:50) Fighting Bitterness with Scripture
(24:40) Lament as a Godward Outlet
(27:30) Identity in Christ vs. Identity in Ministry
(29:20) Bodily Stress & Practical Self‑Care
(31:05) Leaning In Instead of Pulling Away
(33:10) Story: Visiting a Harsh Critic in Grief:
(35:45) Final word & Prayer